Rebecca Eckler on Mommy Brain

Rebecca is suffering from an extreme case of forgetfulness since welcoming her son


Since women have been giving birth since the beginning if time, and will continue to do so forever, I’m sure scientists out there have done studies on this thing called, “Baby Brain.” I would do a search to see if Baby Brain is a real thing, but I don’t think I really need to, for two reasons. The first is that I know it is real because I suffer from it and bad. Second, because I suffer from Baby Brain, most likely I would open my computer and go onto Google and then forget entirely what the heck I was going to search for in the first place.

For the past four months, I have forgotten appointments, meetings, names, why and where I am driving. I can’t even remember anymore what I’m forgetting, except to say that most likely right now, I shouldn’t be writing and possibly should be attending a parent-teacher interview or meeting a friend for a coffee date we made a week ago. My brain is so fried that I had to call a friend – three times – in one month to ask her to remind me of the name of one of my editors that I have been working with for two years.

I will get e-mails from people asking, “What happened to you? We were supposed to meet yesterday,” and I literally will be like, “Doh! I totally just…forgot!” Just yesterday I got a call from my family doctor saying I missed two appointments, one for my daughter’s check up and one for my four month son’s check up (The son I blame for my total lack of memory.) Whenever a friend tells me she is pregnant and mentions she has “pregnancy brain” which have the same main symptom of Baby Brain, meaning you forget everything including being in the shower and wondering if you washed your hair or not, they always say hopefully, “I can’t wait until I get my brain back.” I hate to be the one to break it to them, but I do, that they never will get their entire brain back. I know this because my daughter is now nine, and my memory, thanks to her, has never been the same since the day she was born.

I used to be the type that, if you told me your phone number, I could remember it immediately. I never had a calendar and could remember appointments entire months in advance. Even though technology has made it easier to remember things – hey you can just type it into your iPhone with a reminder to go off! – it doesn’t matter. More often these days, I am forgetting my iPhone either in my house or in my car. I went to a party last week and I know I knew certain people, but for the life of me, couldn’t remember half their names. This is full on baby brain. And, I have to tell you…wait…what did I have to tell you? See? It happens all the time. I just feel, pretty much these days, stupid. I hate to say it, but that’s what having a baby does to you.


Rebecca Eckler is one of Canada's most well-known journalists. She has been a columnist with the National Post, Canada's national newspaper, for five years, including a stint as a New York-based columnist and feature writer. She is the best-selling author of Knocked UpWiped!Toddlers Gone Wild, How to Raise a Boyfriend and The Lucky Sperm Club. Rebecca lives in Toronto with her fiancé and family.

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