Rebecca Eckler: Why I LOVED People Touching My Pregnant Belly

People feeling your growing baby in your stomach is a perk of being pregnant


 

Recently, on Facebook, Today’s Parent asked pregnant people the question, “Do you like people touching your pregnant belly?” It came with a really cute picture of a woman wearing a T-shirt that read, “If you didn’t put it in here, then do not touch.”

I’m not one of those people who didn’t like people touching my stomach when I was pregnant. Sure, the first time around, perhaps I was a little weirded out when someone would touch my stomach, but they were never perfect strangers and they always asked first. This time around, when I was pregnant, I LOVED it when people touched my stomach.

I mean, the only person who cares about my stomach these days, now that the baby is out, is my trainer and he doesn’t think my non-pregnant belly is cute. He’s more like, “If you want a flat stomach again, then you must do three billion sit ups!” No one was nicer to my stomach then when I was pregnant. And I kind of miss it. Actually, I really miss it. It’s nice to be touched, even by strangers.

Often, later in my pregnancy, I would grab people’s hands and put them on my stomach and say, “See? Can you feel him moving?” It really is an amazing thing. I didn’t find it an invasion of my privacy at all if someone I barely knew asked, “Can I please feel?” I thought it was very sweet that they wanted to feel the miracle of birth and the miracle of a baby growing inside of me. (For the record, no strange, creepy men ever asked to touch my stomach and that would be a different story.)

So, now, no one ever asks to touch my stomach, let alone asks about my stomach. I don’t exactly miss pregnancy but there are certain things I miss about being pregnant, including people touching my stomach, whether they asked or not. (Because I didn’t care. It felt NICE that people wanted to touch my stomach.)

I miss people holding doors open for me. I miss people carrying my heavy grocery bags. I miss people asking me how I’m feeling. I miss people asking me when I’m due and telling me that I’m glowing. People feeling your growing baby in your stomach is a perk of being pregnant I think.

Like I said, no one aside from my trainer, who yells at my stomach, or me, who pinches the love handles, cares about my stomach anymore, just like they don’t care about holding doors open for me anymore, or making sure that I’m okay walking down stairs, or giving me their seat on the subway. Embrace the fact, I want to tell pregnant woman, that people care enough to want to touch your growing belly. Because after you give birth, no one will care or want to. I miss it.

But that doesn’t mean I want you to touch my stomach now. Oh no, that’s only allowed during pregnancy!

 

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Rebecca Eckler is one of Canada's most well-known journalists. She has been a columnist with the National Post, Canada's national newspaper, for five years, including a stint as a New York-based columnist and feature writer. She is the best-selling author of Knocked UpWiped!Toddlers Gone Wild, How to Raise a Boyfriend and The Lucky Sperm Club. Rebecca lives in Toronto with her fiancé and family. 

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