8 Things Dads Should Never Say To New Moms

There are just some things dads should never say to moms, especially moms of newborns

Having a partner to help you through the trials of parenting can be a blessing. Someone to help with the messes, the tears and those unbearably sleepless nights. But every now and then, dad might let a few words slip… a few words that he probably should have kept to himself!

“What did you do all day?”

Dinner isn’t cooked, lunches dirty dishes are still in the sink… what could you have possibly been doing all day with a newborn baby to care for? Try to keep in mind, though, that dad might be genuinely interested in what you and the little one did all day.

“When I was a kid, my mom…”

Never, ever bring up the mother-in-law, am I right? Times are different and we all parent in different ways. So the safest bet is to leave all in-laws (that includes yours) at the door and focus on how the two of you plan to raise junior.

“Did you check out any soap operas today?”

No, just no. As if the mother of a newborn is able to just sit down and spend the day in front of the television.

“You look tired”

No one, and I mean no one, wants to hear this, even on a good day. So when are you dealing with a fussy, possibly colicky baby, it really is the last thing you want to hear. You haven’t slept through a night in weeks, so yes, you look tired—no need to point it out, thanks.

“That’s a mom’s job”

When it comes to a baby, there are only two things that are exclusively a “mom’s job”—actually giving birth and breastfeeding. So if he is talking about anything else, he might live to regret it!

“You take the night off, I’ll babysit”

On the surface, this seems like a kind and sincere request. We take issue with the word “babysit” though. He’s a dad, not a babysitter. And looking after his own child is not a big favour to you. It’s not a job that you would pay $20 for him to do, it’s his life.

“She’s fine”

Really? Is she really fine? The only one that can tell you that with 100% certainty is the “she” in question. And since she is only a few weeks or months old, she won’t be telling you. Dads are better off letting us vent our concerns and responding with a hug then with a dismissive “she’s fine”.

“Stop worrying”

Along the same lines as above, moms are going to be worrying and fretting over pretty much everything. Especially when it comes to a newborn. Dads, grin and bear it and try to understand that eventually, we’ll stop worrying, just like eventually you’ll stop telling us she’s fine and we look tired!

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