Finding Out The Baby’s Gender: Why I Wanted To Know

There were already so many surprises that came along with pregnancy that I didn't want to add to the unknown


At no point did I consider not finding out my baby’s gender. I had seen the many Hollywood portrayals of birth where the doctor pronounces, ‘It’s a boy/girl!’ after hours of painful labour but that announcement did not appeal to me. Okay, maybe there was a brief second where I imagined the romance of such a scenario but it was fleeting.  I wanted to know. Here is why:

Enough with the surprises!

For some people, pregnancy itself is an unplanned surprise. Not for me—we worked for a year and half to get pregnant but for some people, the whole thing is a shock.

Regardless of our careful planning, pregnancy has thrown lots of surprises my way. For example, I wasn’t anticipating spending the first three months with my head in a toilet and hating the foods I used to love. I wasn’t expecting my emotions to jump around like lightning, causing me to act like a lunatic, speak every crazy thought that crossed my mind and cry over not making a green light. I wasn’t expecting my body to change like it has, to grow with so much speed, and function (or fail to function) in ways that I couldn't control. There have been so many surprises during pregnancy that I decided I didn’t need one more.

Also, finding out the gender of the baby at 20 weeks was a nice way to celebrate the halfway mark of pregnancy, and who doesn’t love another reason to celebrate?

Preparation is key

Like a boy scout, I like to be prepared and for me, it is easier to prepare for the life changing addition of a baby if I know the gender. Name choice is a very big deal. With the addition of names like Apple, Seven and Surface added to the roster, the options are officially endless. Needing a selection of boy names AND girl names at the ready is daunting, so my husband and I decided to cut the work in half with only one gender to navigate. 

We also felt it was important to have the circumcision talk before the baby was born. If we knew the baby was a boy, we wanted to research, discuss and make a decision early. It would be one less issue to worry about when our new baby ultimately arrived.

Finally, we wanted to prepare the nursery for either a boy or a girl. While we aren’t necessarily fans of the traditional pink or blue, there were certain elements that we wanted in a boys’ room versus a girls’ room. As a former ballerina, a little girl’s room may have some additional glitter. 

All The Baby Gear

This one is not just for me but everyone involved in the new baby’s life. Grandparents, aunts, and uncles are all excited to buy things for the new baby and we’re all waiting anxiously to know who they were buying for. Friends want to hand over their children’s used clothing, buy new shoes for the baby, or purchase blue/pink swaddling blankets.

Friends and family wanted to know the gender for gift giving purposes come the baby shower time and to be honest, I have a few gender specific purchases that I would like to make myself. For me and my family, the excitement of shopping for baby gear is the fun part of expecting and I’m hoping it will help distract me from some of the third trimester discomfort.

Finding out your baby’s gender is a very personal decision. I am sure that you will have your own reasons as to why you do or why you don’t and I applaud you either way.

By the way, we’re having a boy. 

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